Like Sebi, music inspires me – deepening my experience of pretty much everything. Listening to songs helped pull more emotion out of me as I wrote. And then when I read the book to the music I laughed and cried all over again. I wanted to share that with you, so here are the songs that changed my experience of the book – songs that had me smiling ear to ear, sobbing uncontrollably and occasionally dancing around the office. Enjoy!

Part I
  • As Steve is leaving work – Elastic Heart, Sia
  • Arriving home – Smile, Uncle Kracker
  • Pottery and dinner – Vincent (Starry, Starry Night), Don McLean and Starlight, Muse
  • Cheesecake for breakfast – You Don’t Know, Katelyn Tarver
  • Coming home early – Helter Skelter
  • A worried weekend – Burn it to the Ground, Nickleback
  • Seeing Sophie at Newman’s – I’d Come for You, Nickelback
  • Learning about the alters – Pressure, David Bowie
  • Meeting Sophie at work – Fall For You, Secondhand Serenade
  • Driving home from Newman’s – Poker Face, Lady GaGa
  • Making breakfast with Sebi – Our House, Crosby, Stills & Nash – time with Seb
  • Steve gets a call from an old friend – You’ve Got A Friend, James Taylor
  • You Don’t Know, Katelyn Tarver
  • Steve discusses Sebi’s monologue with Dr. Newman – Hurts Like Hell, Fleurie
  • Steve learns how the agency is connected to the monologue – Personal Jesus, Marilyn Manson
  • Steve and Rachel visit the pumpkin patch – It’s The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown (linus & lucy version)
  • Before the Winter Gala with Seb – Fight Song, Rachel Patton
  • At the Gala and into art class – Breakaway, Kelly Clarkson
  • Celebrating an artistic breakthrough – Unwritten by Natasha Bedingfield
  • Steve and The Timeshare visit California for a wedding –
  • Nightime visitor – I Want Your Sex, George Michael
  • Walking back after the wedding – Ain’t No Sunshine, Bill Withers
  • Steve wakes to an empty bed – Walking on Broken Glass, Annie Lenox
  • Steve and Kevin visit San Diego – How Could This Happen To Me?, Simple Plan
  • Cooking dinner with Jamie – Via Con Me, Paolo Conte
  • Steve learns of Jamie’s origins – Beethoven’s 5 Secrets – One Republic
  • Steve and The Timeshare discuss the piano with Dr. Newman – The Piano Soundtrack, Michael Nyman and Renegade, Styx
  • In The Arms of the Angels, Sarah McLachlan
Part II
  • Trying to find answers – I Want to Compromise, Lew Hopson
  • Elizabeth comes out at Dr. Newman’s office – Unwell, Matchbox 20
  • Steve takes a break – Catch My Breath, Kelly Clarkson
  • Elizabeth plays the violin – Simple Joys, Jewel
  • Jamie makes dinner – Bless the Broken Road, Rascal Flatts
  • Sebi shares some of his history – Scars, Papa Roach
  • Constance’s art class – Sunny Side of the Street, Louis Armstrong
  • Seb and Ellyn explain about their work with Dr. Ziegal – Bring me to life, Evanescence
  • Steve checks out the partner’s group – A Little Help from My Friends, Sergeant Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band
  • Christmas with The Timeshare – Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas
  • Helping scared Rachel – Sad Lisa, Cat Stevens
  • The art on the wall – Dandelions, Ruth B.
  • Steve’s dinner with David – Black Roses, Clare Bowen
  • Anna and Steve share an evening – Secrets, Maroon 5
  • Autopilot – Breathe Me, Sia
  • Seb at the art show – I Will Never Let You Know, Clare Bowen
  • Talking with Liz about her time with Sebi -That’s What Friends Are For, Dionne Warwick
  • Talking with Liz about Seb’s FB page – Girls just want to have fun, Cyndi Lauper
  • Seb wonders – is it really me? – Charisma, King
  • Steve and Kevin at the cabin remembering old friends, old loves and sharing about their commitment to their wives – A Thousand Years and I Will Follow You
  • Into the Dark, Death Cab for Cutie
  • Steve finds Sebi’s monologues – Take Me Home, Jess Glynne
  • Steve and Seb talk about Liz and Laura at Starbuck’s – Patience, Guns & Roses
  • Steve finds Sophie asleep on Napoleon – I Love You A Bushel and a Peck, The Andrews Sisters
  • Breakfast with Rachel – Pooh Corner
  • Rachel tells more of Sebi and Sophie’s story – Something in the Air, Phil Collins and Janie’s Got a Gun, Aerosmith
  • Steve talks with Kevin on the phone – Stuck in the Middle with You, Stealers Wheel
Part III
  • Art Festival – Bully, Shinedown
  • Steve finds Craig’s website and talks with Jeremy – Dark Side, Kelly Clarkson
  • In the mountains – Don’t Know Why, Nora Jones
  • Talking with Dr. Newman about Sophie’s work – Everybody Hurts, R.E.M.
  • Sebi tells Steve how he feels – Fix You, Coldplay
  • and Do I Wanna Know? Arctic Monkeys
  • Dr. Newman turns the table on Steve – Dirty Little Secret, All American Rejects
  • After dinner watching Dr. Strange – I don’t Want to Miss a Thing, Aerosmith
  • Steve tells Sebi his secret – When We Were Young, Adele
  • Seb responds – All American Boy, Steve Grand
  • Afternoon session with Seb – Believer, Imagine Dragons
  • How To Save A Life, The Fray
  • Therapy – Steve evades the question – Pretty Hurts, Beyonce
  • Steve tells Seb the rest – I’m Only Human, Christina Perri
  • Steve chats with Richard – I Will Not Bow, Breaking Benjamin
  • Seb gets upset – This is Gospel, Panic at the Disco!
  • and When She Cries, Britt Nicole
  • While Sophie is away – It Ain’t Yours to Throw Away, Clare Bowen and Sam Palladio
  • Sophie comes home – So Far Away, Martin Garrix and David Guetta
  • Dread – All I Want, Kodaline
  • Steve talks to Rachel – Goodnight, My Angel, Billy Joel
  • Steve sings to Sophie – I Won’t Give Up, Jason Mraz
  • Steve goes back home for a visit – Save a Place for Me, Matthew West
  • Steve comes back to Denver and learns what happened to Sophie – Precious, Depeche Mode, and Trouble, Cat Stevens, and Til It Happens to You, Lady Gaga
  • Everyone heads out and Steve is alone – How You Learn to Live Alone, Jonathan Jackson
  • Steve opens the mail – Requiem For a Dream, NeverSeenOrchestra
  • Drops of Jupiter, Train
  • Steve’s videochat with Rachel – Butterfly Fly Away, Miley and Billie Rae Cyrus
  • Steve visits Liz in California – My Best Friend, Jason Mraz
  • Talking with Dr. Newman – Simply Three – Unsafe Haven
  • Sebi hands Steve a large envelope – Tears in Heaven, Eric Clapton
  • Ellyn and Steve discuss options – One More for Love
  • Christmas with the family – Put A Little Love in Your Heart
  • January after Christmas together – California Dreamin’, The Mamas and The Papas



  • Lucky, Jason Mraz
  • Feels Like Home, Chantal Kreviazuk
  • I’m Yours, Jason Mraz
  • A Life That’s Good, Charles Esten
  • Love is All You Need, Beatles


Books about Trauma & Multiplicity:
  • Who Parked the Car? Exercises for multiples, by Ellyn Stevens— available on Amazon
  • United We Stand, Eliana Gil, PhD
  • Trauma & Recovery, Judith Herman, MD
  • Waking the Tiger, Peter Levine, PhD (He has a number of good books)
  • First Person Plural, Cameron West, PhD
  • Katherine, It’s Time, Kit Castle and Stefan Bechtel
Book to empower girls (and child alters):
  • Ophelia’s Oracle, Donna DeNomme and Tina Proctor
Polyamory Resources:
  • Loving More,
  • Jessica Fern Cooley, M.S. Psychotherapy and Coaching for Non-Monogamy, Polyamory and Alternative Relationships
  • Book – What Does Polyamory Look Like, Mim Chapman, PhD

This story will break your heart and then heal it.

Welcome to The Timeshare— a graphic portrayal of a family’s journey from trauma and dissociative identity disorder to healing. A love story, a mystery, and a tale of nail-biting suspense. The host personality, Sophie, is fading away while the alter stepping in may not be the best partner for Steve, who is Sophie’s husband and the narrator of this story. Can Sophie and Steve find a traditional life and happiness in the shadow of mental illness and addiction? Or will they have to explore some unconventional options?

Jessica Fern Cooley

The Timeshare is an important book that humanizes and compassionately deals with common issues that are rarely discussed. By removing the stigma around mental illness, diversity in human sexuality and relationship orientation, the author helps us all confront and even heal from the belief that different is wrong. This is a timely book for people living with differences as well as their partners and caregivers. The Timeshare will also be interesting and eye-opening for anyone is wants a deeper understanding of the multiple ways that the mind and love can be expressed.

Jessica Fern Cooley, MS

Psychotherapist and Coach

Brad Simkins

The Timeshare is a powerfully written page turner. You will find yourself lost in the rich and delicious story and in the wonderful depth of each character. As a licensed counselor who has been working with clients for 40 years, I have never read a book that so beautifully demystifies what D.I.D. is and brings a
wellspring of insight and understanding. The Timeshare is a testament to the strength, determination and resilience of the human spirit. You will find yourself laughing, crying and gasping throughout the story. It has instantly become one of my favorites–a book that I believe will revolutionize the way people perceive and understand the warriors of spirit that many have misunderstood. I give this treasure my highest recommendation.

Brad Simkins, MA

Intuitive Coach

Rick M

The Timeshare was a revelation for me. Through it, I have come to better understand my spouse–learning that she was coping with trauma that I had not been aware existed. It was healing to to understand that I could trigger her desperation but not necessarily be the root cause. The Timeshare helped me better understand that I’m not alone in dealing with these issues and experiences, and it filled me with compassion by seeing things through her eyes. The book is wonderfully enlightening and a fun thriller to read!

Rick M

Mim Chapman

I fell in love with the characters in The Timeshare and was immediately hooked. I laughed with them, cried with them and found myself celebrating victories with them. If you’re looking for a compelling story of family and healing that reminds us that all of our inner selves deserve to be loved and celebrated, this is a great book for you. Once you start reading, you won’t want to put it down.

Mim Chapman, PhD

Author, coach and polyamory mentor

Excerpt from The Timeshare

My heart is pounding in my ears. I trip down the steps and grab my coat.

“This is it, Sophie,” I hiss.

“I have stuck with you through all of your moods, the anxiety, all of the crap you put me through and this is what you do while I’m at work? You screw around on me?”

Her voice is calm and deep as she unemotionally states, “Steve, you need to calm down. First, there’s more to this than you think.”

“I hope there’s not more, Sophie, because it looks like you’re cheating.”


“I’m not. I know that doesn’t make sense to you right now, but that’s not what this is.”

“You’re in bed with someone else, Sophie. I’m not sure how else this can add up.”

Every instinct is telling me to run and I’m thankful I left my suitcase in the car. I can bolt if I have to.

“I think the critical question at this point is why the hell should I stay with you?”

“I can’t answer that for you, Steve. I get why you’d want to leave and if you feel like you have to, then leave. But if you want answers, let’s keep our appointment with Dr. Newman on Monday. I think everything will make more sense after that.” She sounds like a reporter who’s just providing information, like she’s completely uninvested in our relationship.

I feel the decision ripping me apart. I’m resentful that she’s put this on me. When she drank, she was like this. She’d make a mess, show no emotion, and expect me to clean up the wreckage afterwards. Still stunned, I’m barely able to catch my breath. Our marriage is over but Sophie doesn’t seem to know that. Or if she does, she doesn’t care.

She shakes out a cigarette, puts it in her mouth and mumbles, “You mind?”

“Yes, I mind! What the hell, Sophie?”

She throws the cigarettes on the coffee table and slicks her hair back with both hands. Spreading her knees wide and leaning towards me, she asks, “What do you want to do?”

I desperately need her to understand how upset I am. I grab the wine bottle and wave it. She has always refused to drink with me, telling me it doesn’t agree with her any longer. “Are you kidding me with this?” I blast, tossing it into the fireplace. My face is hot and my head is swimming, but Sophie doesn’t flinch.
I can’t look at her. I stare at the fireplace full of ashes from the previous night and now broken bits of green glass shimmering against the embers.
I hear keys jangling as Sophie’s friend comes down the steps and I’m shocked when I turn around to see a woman.

She’s wearing a black slip dress, carrying strappy high heels, eyes wide like they’ve been caught by one of their fathers doing nothing wrong. Even early in the morning, this thirty-something blonde woman is stunning her appearance, as well as the way she carries herself. I wonder if Sophie met her while modeling.

The woman nods to me with a degree of familiarity I find unsettling, then grabs my wife’s hand and pulls her in for a long goodbye kiss before saying, “I’ll see you tomorrow, S.

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